If you're new to the blog, welcome. If you're not, welcome back. You've probably seen we have a few kids roaming around these parts, including 3 teen girls, all in different stages of puberty. The conversation of bra shopping and how to introduce your daughter to wearing a bra can be a challenge for any parent.
Bra shopping during a pandemic when most dressing rooms are closed? Even harder. Thanks to our friends over at Apricotton, who make some incredible bras specifically for pre-teens, we have some advice for first-time bra wearers.
How to Introduce Your Daughter to Wearing a Bra
Guest post by Elizabeth Casciaro
Have you noticed that your daughter has started the beginning stages of puberty? You might be feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to comfortably introduce the topic to her, especially when it comes time to wear a bra. However, this doesn’t need to be an uncomfortable event and can even be turned into a great opportunity for a mother-daughter bonding moment.
How to start the conversation about wearing a bra
I’m a firm believer that it’s important for kids to know the basics of body changes during puberty before they even reach it. That way, they’re less likely to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable when it does happen to them. So, don’t be afraid to talk about bodies in an age-appropriate manner and be willing to answer questions that your daughter may have about growing up.
When you notice that your daughters’ body is starting to change, gently bring up the topic in a non-judgemental and non-teasing manner. Instead of blunt statements such as “you need a bra!” suggestions like “I was around your age when I first started wearing a bra, we should buy some for you soon” can help your daughter feel more relaxed and less alone. Finding a way to remind her that it’s an experience that everyone goes through can help her feel more at ease and accepting of her changing body.
How to make the bra shopping experience fun
If your daughter has you pick out a few plain pieces without her, she might not be motivated to actually start wearing her new bras. So, bring her along for the shopping trip and let her pick out a few pieces with designs or colors that genuinely suit her taste (Apricotton’s line is adorable and looks great on everyone!).
In-person lingerie stores can be intimidating for kids, so make sure to check in with your daughter and ask if she would prefer online shopping instead.
Inviting older sisters on the trip may be tempting, but shopping for a first bra is best left as a one-on-one activity. Sometimes siblings can take teasing a bit too far, and you want this to be a positive experience for your child.
How to keep the conversation going
I’m sure you know that puberty isn’t a one-and-done event, but it can be hard to figure out how to keep the topic on the table. Your daughter might be a bit uncomfortable if she’s frequently being asked questions about any changes, so encourage her to open up to you on her own terms by letting her know that there’s no judgment if she has any questions or concerns.
If she’s ready to wear a bra, Apricotton is here for her. Apricotton designs bras specifically for pre-teen girls. Their bras are super adjustable to last through multiple stages of puberty. They also write blog posts similar to this one to answer your daughter’s puberty questions. Order a comfy starter bra today.