Hmm, how to deal with eternal pessimists. Have you ever have someone in your life who is a complete pessimist 24/7? I believe most of the time, it is healthiest to just distance yourself from those people. If they bring you down—and everyone around you down—why wouldn't you just want to cut them loose? It cannot possibly be healthy to surround yourself with that, can it? Constant negativity and selfishness.
But sometimes you don't have a choice to erase them. They're family, friends of family, colleagues, etc. How do you cope? Do they even realize that they are so negative? I can think if a few times where there have been conversations between myself and others regarding someone's pessimism and the “all-about-me” and “woe is me” attitude that goes along with it. It's like they didn't even get it. They had no concept of what I was trying to discuss with them. Maybe they don't know they are like that?
Do they truly believe that they are the only people with problems? That no one else could possibly understand what they are going through. That they are always the victim? That no one else gets sick or has medical issues. Every single conversation you have turns back to them. By turns, I mean they turn it back to themselves. Every flipping time you talk. Is that kind of negativity so ingrained in their being that they don't recognize it? Do they not see when they are pushing people away with their behavior? Or are they so self-absorbed that they cannot even see it in themselves? It makes me want to have a glass of wine. Or a bottle. Or two.
I recognize I am the opposite of pessimistic. I'm almost always an optimist. Generally, I'm smiling. It takes a lot to make me feel badly enough about life that I feel the need to play the victim and have a pity party. I honestly can't remember the last time I had a pity party for myself, that's how infrequently I let that happen.
Are there people in your life like this? How do you cope with them if you are forced to do so?